IpSpw_w ]ckv]c hnizmk¯nsâbpw Bgtadnb _Ô§fpsSbpw thZnbmsWóXn\p kwibanñ. Fñm Imcy§fnepw Fñm cwK§fnepw \s½ kwc£n¡phm³ {]m]vXamIpó GI kmaqlnI LSIw IpSpw_amsWópw \ap¡v Adnbmw. apey§Ä hfcpIbpw hfÀ¯pIbpw sN¿pó Hcp hfÀ¯ptI{µw IqSnbmWv IpSpw_w. kvt\lw, hmÕeyw, IcpW, ]ckv]c klIcWw, HuZmcyw apXemb Fñm aqey§fpw hfcphm³ CSbmIpó kmlNcyw IpSp_amWv. IpSp_¯nð e`n¡m¯sXmópw kaql¯nð\ntóm atÁsX¦pnepw Source ð \ntóm \ap¡p e`yamIpónñ. Fómð Cós¯ Imebfhnð \½psS IpSpw_§fnð\nópw [mÀ½oIXbpsSbpw aqeyt_m[¯nsâbqw ASnØm\§Ä \ãambns¡mïncn¡póp.

hfsc tJZt¯msS am{Xsa B\pImenI IpSpw_PohnXs¯ hnebncp¯phm³ \ap¡p km[n¡bpÅq. Cóv BVw`c¯nsâbpw BÀ`mS¯nsâbpw `uXoI kar²nbpsSbpw Hs¡ thentbÁw B²ymßnI aqey§sf \ãs¸Sp¯nbncn¡póp. Cu ]Ým¯e¯nemWv ss__nfnse Nne IpSp_§sf¸Án \mw Nn´n¡póXv. Cu teJ\¯nð \½psS {i²bv¡p hnjbo`hn¸n¡phm³ B{Kln¡póXv bnklm¡nsâ IpSpw_s¯¡pdn¨mWv. Dð¸¯n]pkvXIw Ccp]¯n\mep apXð Dcp]¯ntbgp hscbpÅ A²ymb§fnemWv bnklm¡ns\¸Ánbpw bnklm¡nsâ IpSpw_PohnXs¯¸Ánbpw a\Ênem¡phm³ \ap¡p km[n¡póXv.

A{_lmw, bnklm¡p, bmt¡m_v Fón tKm{X]nXm¡òms¸Án Nn´n¡pt¼mÄ GI]Xv\n{hXw ]cn]men¨ GI hyànbmWv bnklm¡v. bnklm¡v Fó hm¡nsâ AÀ°w Nncn FómWv. hÔybmbncpó kmdmbn¡v hmÀ²Iy¯nð ]p{X\pïmIpsaóv tI«t¸mÄ Dïmb NncnbmWv bnklm¡v Fó t]cn\v \nZm\ambn«pÅXv. B IpSpw_¯nte¡p {i²n¨mð \ap¡p ]n³]Áphm\pÅ ]eXpw B IpSpw_¯nepïv. ]n³XÅphm\pÅ ]eXpw Dïv FópwIqSn \mw Adnªncnt¡ïXpïv.

BZyambn \½psS {i²bnðs¸SpóXv bnklm¡nsâ hnhml¯n\p ap¼pÅ B ImeL«amWv. bnklm¡nsâ PohnX¯nse Hcp¡ Imesaóv \ap¡p CXns\ hntijn¸n¡mw. ssiih¯nð ]nXmhnsâ CwKnX¯n\p ]qÀ®amb A\pkcWtbmsS Ignª Hcp _meIs\bmWv \mw ImWpóXv. tamdnbmaebnð _enbÀ¸n¡phm\mbn t]mIpt¼mÄ bmsXmcp FXnÀ¸pw IqSmsX Xsâ ]nXmhnsâ BÚIÄ¡v ]qÀ® A\pkct¯msS bnklm¡v hn\bs¸«p Fóp \mw ImWpóp. Xsâ amXmhmb kmdmbpsS acWw bnklm¡nsâ PohnX¯nse henb Hcp BLmXambncpóp. ImcWw amXmhnsâ kwc£Wbpw hmÕeyhpsams¡ [mcmfambn bnklm¡v A\p`hn¨ncpóp. AXpsImïv amXmhnsâ acWw bnklm¡nsâ PohnXs¯ ]nSn¨pe¨p Fóv F\n¡p tXmónt¸mIpóp.

GXmïv \mð¸Xp hbÊphsc bnklm¡v hnhmls¯¸Án Nn´n¨ncpónñ. Fómð A¡mes¯mópw Hcp A]Ykômcw sN¿póXnt\m GsX¦nepw hgnhn« {]hÀ¯\§fnð CSs]SpóXnt\m apXnÀóXmbn \mw hmbn¡pónñ. Fómð Xsâ bphXz¯nð kòmÀ¤\ncX\mbn hfsc \njvTtbmSpIqSn [ym\¯nepw B²ymßnI Imcy§fnepw hfsc \njvIÀjX ]men¨ncpóp FóXv \ap¡p amXrIbmtIï Hcp kwKXnbmWv. {]tXyIn¨v CópÅ bphXobphm¡òmÀ CXv amXrIbmt¡ïXmWv. hnhml¯n\pap¼pÅ ImeL«w a\kwba\t¯mSpw \njvTtbmSpwIqSn Pohnt¡ï Hcp ImeL«amWv. Fómð bmsXmcp \nb{´WhpanñmsX btYãw Ibdqcnhn« Hcp A\p`h¯nð \S¡póhcpsS IpSpw_PohnXw kpKaambn ]cnWan¡phm³ Ffp¸añ. KXIme PohnX¯nsâ Aip²amb kvacWIfpw ]cnNb§fpw hnhml PohnX¯nepw ISóphcpw. AXp ]et¸mgpw A]kzc§Ä krãn¡pw. ]e IpSpw_§fpsSbpw De¨nen\pÅ ImcWhpw AXp XsóbmWv. AXpsImïv bnklm¡nsâ PohnXw \s½ HmÀ½s¸Sp¯póXv hnhml¯n\p ap¼pÅ PohnXw a\kwba\t¯mSpw {i²tbmSpw \mw IgnªpIqSWsaóXmWv.

bnkvlm¡v {]mÀ°\bpÅ Hcp bphmhmbncpóp. At±ls¯¸Án \mw hmbn¡póXv C{]ImcamWv: "sshIptóc¯p bnkvlm¡v [ym\n¸m³ shfn{¼tZi¯p t]mbncpóp; Ah³ Xes]m¡n t\m¡n H«I§Ä hcpóXp Iïp;' (Dev]¯n 24:63) F{Xam{Xw t{ijvTambXpw A`n\µ\obambXpw Bb Hcp PohnXssienbmWv bnklm¡nð \mw ImWpóXv. i_vZmbabamb A´co£¯nð \nsóms¡bpw thdn«v {]im´amb Hcp A´co£¯nð thdn«ncpóv ssZhhpambn kwkÀ¤w sN¿phm\pw Iq«mbva ]peÀ¯phm\papÅ Cu bphmhnsâ ]cn{iaw Xsâ BßoIXbpsS Hcp henb sXfnhmbn«mWv Rm³ ImWpóXv. A{]ImcapÅ {]mÀ°\mPohnXw bnklm¡nsâ Hcp khntijXbmWv.

hnhml¯n\ptijw Ccp]Xp hÀjt¯mfw AhÀ¡v a¡fnñmbncpóp. B kab¯nepw At±lw {]mÀ°\bv¡p apS¡w hcp¯nbncpónñ FómWv \mw a\Ênem¡póXv. "Xs³d `mcy a¨nbmbncpóXpsImïp bnkvlm¡v AhÄ¡pthïn btlmhtbmSp {]mÀ°n¨p; btlmh Ahs³d {]mÀ°\tI«p; Ahs³d `mcy dns_¡m KÀ`w [cn¨p;' (Dev]¯n 25:21) A{]Imcw \ncmimabamb Hcp A\p`h¯nepw Xsâ {]mÀ°\m PohnX¯n\p Hcp De¨nepw X«msX XpSÀópsImïncpóp FóXp henb Hcp A\p`hamWv. A{]ImcapÅ {]mÀ°\m kz`mhw hnhml¯n\pap¼pw hnhml¯n\ptijhpw, Xsâ kt´mj¯nepw k´m]¯nepw, kar²nbnepw \ncmibnepw bnkvlm¡nsâ PohnX¯nð AenªptNÀóncpóp.

A{]Imcw Bßob A\p`h§fnð Xo£vWXbpïmbncpó bnkvlm¡v t_Ài_bnð hóp XmaÊn¡pt¼mÄ btlmhbmb ssZhw Ah\p {]Xy£\mbn. ssZht¯mSv \nc´camb _Ôw ]peÀ¯pIbpw btlmhbpsS kJnXzw \nÀhnLv\w ]peÀ¯pIbpw sN¿póhÀ¡mWv btlmhm {]Xy£\mIpIbpw Acpf¸mSpIÄ \ðIpIbpw sN¿póXv. Rm³ \nsâ ]nXmhmb A{_lmansâ ssZhamWv; Rm³ \nsó A\p{Kln¨ncn¡póp Fóv {]Xy£ambn ssZh¯nsâ i_vZw tIÄ¡phm³ `mKyapïmIpI FóXv a\pjy PohnX¯nð e`n¡pó Hcp Akpe` `mKyamWv. Ahsâ k´Xnsb A\p{Kln¡pw Fó hmKvZm\hpw AhnsS sh¨mWv bnklm¡n\p e`n¡póXv.

kwba\t¯mSpw \njvTtbmSpwIqSnbpÅ Hcp¡w \½psS hnhmlPohnXs¯ [\yam¡phm³ \s½ {]m]vXcm¡póp. X\n¡p Cãwt]mse kzbambn Hcp `mcysb XncsªSp¡phm³ bnklm¡v apXncpónñ. Xsâ ]nXmhmb A{_lmamWv A¡mcy¯nepw ap³ssI FSp¡póXv. an{ihnhml¯nð¡qSn DïmImhpó {]iv\§sf a\Ênem¡ns¡mïv kztZinbmb Hcp I\yIsb Xsâ aI\p `mcybm¡phm³ A{_lmw B{Kln¨ncpónñ. AXpsImïp Xsâ ]nXrtZi¯p\nópw kzPmXnbnepw Ipe¯nepapÅ Hcp I\yIsb Isï¯phm³ Xsâ hnizkvX `rXy\mb Gebmksd At±lw Ab¡póp. GebmkÀ Xsâ bPam\sâ ZuXy\nÀÆlW¯n\mbn, ]¯v H«I§fpw AXn\pthïnbncn¡pó km[\kma{KnIfpw, A§s\ Fñm Hcp¡t¯mSpw IqSn lmcm\nte¡p ]pds¸«p. A{_lmansâ ktlmZc\mb \mtlmcnsâ aI³ saYpthensâ InWÁn\cnsI F¯n. Xsâ bPam\sâ aI\v tbmKybmb Hcp I\yIsb ImWn¨p XtcWta FópÅ Genbmkdnsâ {]mÀ°\ ^en¨Xpt]mse saYpthensâ aIfmb kpµcnbmb dns_¡msb ImWpIbpw AhÄ H«I§Ä¡v shÅwtImcn sImSp¡pIbpw ho«nð sImïpt]mbn kð¡cn¡pIbpw hnhmlw Dd¸n¡pIbpw AhtcmsSm¯v t]mIm³ X¿mdmIpIbpw sNbvX Imcy§Ä \ap¡dnhpÅXmWv. AXnte¡p ZoÀLambn IS¡phm³ Rm³ B{Kln¡pónñ.

Genbmkdnsâ IqsS A{_lmansâ `h\¯nte¡p hóv IpSpw_PohnXw XpS§pó dns_¡msbbmWv \mw ]nóoSv ImWpóXv. A{]Imcw bnklm¡nt\mSpIqsS Pohn¡pt¼mgmWv AhcpsS PohnX¯nð henb Hcp ZpxJapïmIpóXv. Ccp]Xp hÀj¡mew AhÀ¡p Ipªp§Ä P\n¨nñ. hÔy BtWm Fópt]mepw AhÀ¡p tXmónt¸mbn. Aós¯ ]mc¼cya\pkcn¨v {]khn¡m¯ kv{Xo kaql¯n\p ap¼nð i]n¡s¸«hfmWv. B IpÁt_m[¯nð `mcym`À¯m¡òmÀ cïpt]cpw ssZht¯mSv I®p\otcmsS {]mÀ°n¡pó A\p`hamWv \mw ImWpóXv. CómsW¦nð k´t\mð¸mZ\¯n\v ]e B[p\nI amÀ¤§fpw Dïv. Fómð bnklm¡nsâbpw dns_¡mbpsSbpw PohnX¯nð GI amÀ¤ta DïmbncpópÅp. btlmhtbmSpÅ {]mÀ°\. btlmh Ahs³d {]mÀ°\tI«p; Ahs³d `mcy dns_¡m KÀ`w [cn¨p; AhÄ¡p {]khImew XnIªt¸mÄ Cc«]nffIÄ AhfpsS KÀ`¯nð Dïmbncpóp; KÀ`¯nð sh¨pXsó Cu Cc«IÄ Ieln¨ncpóXpsImïv dnt_¡ AkzkvXbmbn¯oÀóp. Hóma¯h³ Nphóh\mbn ]pd¯phóp, tað apgph\pw tcmaw sImïpff hkv{Xwt]mse Ccpóp; Ah\p Gimhv Fóp t]cn«p; ]nsó Ahs³d ktlmZc³ ]pd¯phóp; Ahs³d ssI Gimhns³d IpXnImð ]nSn¨ncpóp; Ah\p bmt¡m_v Fóp t]cn«p.

C\n \ap¡p B IpSpw_´co£¯nte¡p Hóp It®mSn¡mw. ChnsSbmWv A\mimkyamb Hcn¡epw ]n³]Áphm³ ]mSnñm¯, ]n³XtÅïXmb Hcp {]hWX B IpSpw_¯nð \mw ImWpóXv. cïp a¡tfmSpw ]£]mX]camb Hcp kao]\amWv A¸\pw A½bpw kzoIcn¨ncpóXv. A¸\v IqSpXð kvt\lw aq¯ aI\mb tbimhnt\mSmbncpóp. \mbm«pImc\mb tbimhv shfn{¼tZi¯p\nópw sImïphóncpó Cd¨nbnð bnkvlm¡p cpNn ]nSn¨ncpóp. Fómð A½bv¡p IqSpXð kvt\lw Cfb aI\mb bmt¡m_nt\mSmbncpóp. Cu cïp a¡fpsSbpw sshc¯n\pÅ {][m\amb ImcWw amXm]nXm¡fpsS ]£w ]nSn¨pÅ s]cpamÁambncpóp Fóv \ap¡p ImWphm³ km[n¡pw. AXp ]nóoSv i{XpX ]peÀ¯nb cïp PmXnIfmbn¯ocphm\pÅ ImcW¯nsâ XpS¡hpw CXpXsó Bbncpóp. AXpsImïv a¡tfmSv ]£]mX]camb kao]\w ]mSnñ FóXmWv Cu IpSpw_w \s½ ]Tn¸n¡póXv. a¡sf hfÀ¯póXnembmepw, AhcpsS hnZym`ymk Imcy§fnembmepw amXm]nXm¡Ä¡p Hcpan¨pÅ Hcp Xocpam\apïmbncn¡Ww.

AhcpsS hnZym`ymks¯ kw_Ôn¨mbmepw in£W \S]SnIsf¡pdn¨mbmepw atÁsXmcp Imcyambmepw Hcpan¨pÅ Hcp Xocpam\añmsX HcmÄ HcmfpsS ]£hpw asÁbmÄ asÁmcmfpsS ]£hpw tNÀóv ]£]mX]camb kao]\w hcp¯nbmð AXv Zqchym]Iamb `hn£y¯pIÄ hcp¯nshbv¡pIbpw B a¡Ä sXÁnt¸mIphm\pw A_²§Ä hcp¯nshbv¡phm\pw ImcWamtb¡psaóp \mw a\Ênemt¡ïXpïv. \½psS ssI¿nð Aôp hncepIÄ Dïv Aôpw Aôp hn[¯nemWv Hópw Hcpt]msebñ. Hóp \oïXv, Hóp IpdnbXv, Hóp h®apÅXv, Hóp saenªXv. Fómð Fñm hncepIsfbpw \mw Hópt]mse ImWpóp. Cóp \½psS IpSpw_§fnð A[nIw a¡fnñ; AXp Hópw cïpambns«ms¡ Ipdªn«pïv. Fómð Fñm a¡sfbpw Hcpt]mse ImWphm\pw sFIyXbpÅ Xocpam\§fnð¡qSn Ahsc hfÀ¯phm\pw \mw {i²nt¡ïXv AXy´mt]£nXamWv.

hr²\mb ]nXmhnsâ AÔXsb NqjWw sN¿phm\pw NXnhnð A\p{Klw {]m]n¸m\pw ChnsS Iuiew {]tbmKn¡póXv A½bmWv. hfsc IpÕnXamb Hcp {]hÀ¯nbmWv B A½ sNbvXsXóp \ap¡p a\Ênem¡phm³ km[n¡pw. HcmÄ¡p am{Xta A\p{KlapÅp; asÁbmÄ¡p A\p{Klanñ FópÅ A¸sâ ]£]mX]camb \ne]mSpw \mw AhnsS ImWpópïv.

F\n¡dnbpó ]e amXm]nXm¡fpsSbpw \ne]mSpIÄ Rm³ HmÀ¯pt]mIbmWv. NneÀ¡p B¬a¡tfmSv {]tXyIamb Xmð¸cyapïv. adn¨v s]¬a¡tfmSv IqSpXð hmÕeyw Im«pó Nne amXm]nXm¡fpapïv. aq¯aIt\mSpam{Xw ]£]mX]cambn IqSpXð Xmð¸cyw ImWn¡pó Nne amXm]nXm¡Ä Dïv. NneÀ Cfb aIt\mtSm aItfmtSm IqSpXð hmÕyerw ImWn¡póp. C§s\ ]e amXm]nXm¡fpw AhcpsS A{i²sImtïm kzmÀ°]camb Nn´sImtïm a¡tfmSpÅ ]£]mX]camb s]cpamÁ¯nð hcp¯nshbv¡pó hogvN hym]IamWv Fóp ]dbphmXncn¡phm³ \nhr¯nbnñ.

amXm]nXm¡fpsS ]£]mX]camb Cu kao]\w sImïv Cu IpSpw_w A\À°¯nte¡p hoWpt]mIpóXmbn«mWv \mw ImWpóXv. Iuie¯nð A¸sâ A\p{Klw X«nsbSp¯tijw bmt¡m_n\v kz´\m«nð \nð¡m³ H¡m¯ Hcp ØnXnhntijamWv DïmbXv. tPjvT\pambn sshcy¯nembn. tPjvTs\ t\cnSm\pÅ ss[cyanñmsX bmt¡m_n\v \mSphntSïnhóp. Ccp]Xp hÀj¡mew bmt¡m_n\v ]ctZihmkw sNt¿ïnhóp. Xncn¨phótXm Xsâ ktlmZcs\ hôn¨p Fó henb IpÁt_m[¯nembncpóp. Fómð ]nóoSv cayXbnembn IpSpw_¯nte¡p Xncn¨phcpóXmbpw \mw ImWpópïv.

Npcp¡¯nð, bnkvlm¡nsâ IpSpw_¯nð\nópw amXrIbmt¡ïXmb ]e Imcy§fpw ]cnXyPnt¡ïXmb Nne ]cmPb A\p`h§fpamWv \½psS Nn´bv¡p hnjbo`hn¸n¨Xv. HómaXv \mw IïXv Premarital life and preparation for marriage hnhml¯n\pÅ PohnXw {]mÀ°\bpsSbpw a\kwba\¯nsâbpw kq£vaXbptSXpamb Hcp kabambn \mw IcpXpónñ F¦nð AXp \½psS IpSpw_PohnX¯nse AkzkvXXbv¡p ImcWamtb¡mw. cïmaXmbn IpSpw_PohnX¯nð \ap¡p ]e {]iv\§fpw XcWw sNt¿ïXmbn htó¡mw. NneÀ¡p a¡fnñmbncn¡mw. NneÀ¡p aÁp Nne {]iv\§fmbncn¡mw. A¯cw L«§fnsems¡ {]mÀ°\bnð¡qSn \½psS {]iv\§sfbpw {]bmk§sfbpw A`napJoIcn¡phm³ \ap¡v IgnbWw. \½psS B{Kl§Ä¡pw A`nemj§Ä¡pw hn]coXambn«mbncn¡mw Imcy§Ä \o§póXv. {]mÀ°\bnð¡pSn ]cnlmcw Isï¯nb Hcp IpSpw_ambncpóp bnkvlm¡ntâXv. Fómð sXÁp]Ánt¸mbXv hmÀ²Iy¯nembncpóp. AXp AhcpsS PohnX¯nepw ]nð¡me¯v a¡fpsS PohnX¯nepw hn\bmbn `hn¨p. B sXÁmb kao]\w Hcp Xeapdbnð am{Xw HXp§n\nð¡pónñ Fópw \mw a\Ênem¡póp.

]n³Xeapdbnð bmt¡m_v Xsâ a¡tfmSv ]£]mX]cambn s]cpamdn Fópw \mw ImWpóp. Xsâ sNdp¸¯nð In«nb Nn´bpw ]cnioe\hpw BWv ASp¯ Xeapdbnepw kzm[o\w sNep¯pósXóv \mw a\Ênem¡Ww. bmt¡m_v Cfb aI\mb tbmk^nt\mSv IqSpXð kvt\lw ImWn¨Xpw, AXv ktlmZcòmcpsS Akqbbv¡pw sshc¯n\pw hntZzj¯n\pw ImcWambXpw Fñmw Xsâ amXm]nXm¡fnð \nópw ]mTam¡s¸« A\p`h§fpsS kzm[o\ambncpóp. sXÁmb amXrIIÄ XeapdIfnð \nópw XeapdIfnte¡v ssIamÁw sN¿s¸Spóp. AXpsImïv IpSpw_PohnXw [\yambn¯ocphm³ Cu ]nXm¡òmcpsS A\p`h§Ä \ap¡p ]mTamWv NnesXms¡ ]n³]Áphm\pÅXpïv, NnesXms¡ ]n³XÅphm\pÅXpïv. ]n³]Áphm\pÅXv \mw apdpsI¸nSn¨psImïpw ]n³XÅphm\pÅXv ssZh¯nsâ Ir]bnepw ssZh¯nsâ \S¯n¸nepw ssZh¯nsâ IcpWbnepw B{ibn¨psImïv Xocpam\saSp¡phm\pw ssZh¯nsâ ]cnip²mòmhv \s½ klmbn¡s«.